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That Gender Equality Bullshit II


That Gender Equality Bullshit II


Pick A Struggle, Biko.


Before I proceed, look at this picture:





Seen? Good.

To provide context, that is one of the promotional posters for X-Men: Apocalypse, one of the worst X Movies I have ever seen.

But that’s not the point.

The big guy is En Sabah Nur aka Apocalypse, the guy hailed as the first mutant. In his hand is Mystique, a female shape-shifting mutant. They are on opposite sides of the war, which is why he would be choking her

That poster raised the ire of some ‘feminists’ and ‘human rights groups’.

Their issue?

It promotes violence against women.

It isn’t a lie, is it? Why would anyone want to promote a movie by having a man wrap his hand around the throat of a woman? Isn’t that what they/we’re fighting for?

It is wrong, right?


But; aren’t we supposed to be fighting for gender equality? Those two up there aren’t friends; neither are they lovers. They are people on opposite sides of a war; and in war there are casualties of both sexes, aren’t there?


Someone should have told those hot-blooded feminists; context is everything.


I mean, if she was given preferential treatment because she’s female, that would be sexism, wouldn’t it? He treats her the same way he would treat her male counterparts, it’s violence against women. It’s like asking that female soldiers be shot with special bullets – just because they’re female.


You see why people like me often find feminism confusing? Pick a struggle, biko.


To read more about the X-Men Apocalypse fiasco, go here and here.


That was just the intro; I said that to say this:

A few weeks ago, it was announced that Dr. Who, that British Time Lord who has thrilled English people (and people worldwide) for decades will be portrayed in its thirteenth incarnation by a female. Of course, a number of reactions trailed the news. I wasn’t bothered however, because I know the history of the character. The Time Lord is supposed to be genderless; it was written into the show to allow for continuity in spite of time and explain the change of actors. In fact, I honestly wonder(ed) why it took so long. It’s been coming since forever.


Around the same time, gist about some ‘Women Liberation Front’ People agitating for a female James Bond surfaced. The first I heard of it, it was because Chris Hemsworth had seen Atomic Blond, that Charlize Theron movie and said she would be an amazing Bond. Honestly, I’m pretty much indifferent to the dude. He’s cute but can’t act for shit. That said, I was disappointed. I mean, I would expect him know better.


I’m sure he was trying to pay her a compliment – but he didn’t think it through. If he had, he would have realized agitating for a female Blond is not a compliment to Charlize, neither is it a fight for equality; it’s appropriating a well-known male figure and forcing him into a female mold.


Now let me ask you; why would you want to do that? Is that you don’t think female characters are strong enough – therefore only by appropriating what has been male for so long is the only way to make women relevant? Don’t you know that by doing stuff like that, you’re actually being sexist?


As an aside; I love Kemi Adetiba to death – but the title of her show/program King Women is something I frown at. I love the show, I’m a fan of several of the women who have been on it – but that title is the summation of everything wrong with that side of the ‘gender equality’ war; women can’t achieve greatness on their own pedestal (Queens Regnant; that is – ask Google), they have to come into the men’s arena (Kings).


Or maybe I don’t understand the thinking behind the title ‘King Women’. I stand corrected.


Remember Lara Croft? How about Salt? How about that great lady, Agatha Christie’s (debatably) greatest creation; Miss Marple? How about Wonder Woman? How about Major Motoko Kusanagi of Ghost in the Shell? How about Linda Ikeja? Genevieve? Sally Kenneth Dadzie? Tomi Adesina? Ogechi Nwobia? Elsie? Joy Isi Bewaji? Beyonce? Melissa Macarthy? Angelina Jolie? Scar Jo (even though I don’t think much of her acting skills)? Ellen Degeneres? Can’t you be great, successful, fucking wealthy and be utterly, undeniably female? Honestly, this kind of thinking is the bane of gender equality – because whether you know it or not, you’re saying there’s no value in being female; there’s something wrong with being female. Like; once you have a vagina, you’re doomed; and the only way out is to try to be male.


It’s the same thinking that makes people ascribe the success of Wonder Woman to ‘GIRLS ROCK!’ and not an amazing character given an amazing story, played by an amazing actress and shot by an amazing director.


No. It’s only because she’s female and we haven’t seen a female-led movie in forever. Hm.


Just yesterday I read on a friend’s Facebook post that some person said chivalry stemmed from chauvinism and therefore should be eradicated.


Bloody Hell.


SO, there’s something wrong with a man being nice to a woman.


Okay. Fair enough.


Yet, if a man behaves around a woman the same way he does around his male friends, there’s a problem. He’s barbaric; animalistic and male. You understand the confusion yet?


Pick a struggle, biko.


Let’s not go into the double-standard conversation. Let’s not go near the whole it’s-only-rape-when-its-done-by-a-man-to-a-woman gist. Let’s not talk about how it’s flirting when a woman does it, it’s sexual harassment when a man does the exact same thing. Oh, let’s leave out all of that.


Please. I’m just asking for clarity. What does gender equality mean; the equality of a species or the ‘get-out-jail-free-card for women when they are in generally inconvenient situations?


I’m just asking. And from one human to another….


Pick a fucking struggle, BIKO!






Movie Review: The Wedding Party Is A Fine Way To End 2016


I consider myself privileged to be born at a time Nigeria is blessed with onscreen gods and goddesses like RMD, Joke Silva, Ireti Doyle, Sola Sobowale, Uncle Olu Jacobs, Stella Damasus, Frank Donga

And then, someone went and put four of those people in the same movie. What did they (Kemi Adetiba ashually) think was going to happen?

The Wedding Party is a freshly-done ‘familiar’ movie that follows 24 hours in the life of a newly-wed couple and the drama that follows people from a background as colorful as the one the husband Dozie Onwuka (Banky W) comes from. He is the hapless husband, a retired playboy about to marry the love of his life, virgin Dunni Coker (Adesua Etomi). Of course, we know there are several exs (a ‘just there’ performance by Beverly Naya) lurking in the shadows determined to ruin Dunni’s day because they think she does not deserve Dozie. Of course we know the best man manages to throw some chaos into what would have been a normally peaceful day. Of course we know the groom’s family (actually the groom’s mother; Obianuju Onwuka (Ireti Doyle) thinks the bride’s family (Tinuade and Bamidele Coker; Sola Sobowale and Ali Baba respectively) are gold diggers. And truly, as the movie progresses, events conspire to agree with her.

Actually, it does appear that; while the bride and groom both come from money, the groom’s parents are more refined than the bride’s. But; the question of who is actually the better parent is clearly answered.


In spite of all the ‘expectedness’ however; The Wedding Party is arguably the best movie from Nigerian studios this year, and one of the best worldwide. That might seem like reaching, but when you follow a script that takes you on an even ride, climbing steadily and approaching the climax with skill, grace and finesse, you just have to applaud.

Masterfully combining humor with drama and emotion, the movie sails seamlessly from one scene to the next to the next. Frank Donga is still a master of deadpan humor as; after a small accident leaves the bride’s gown torn he asks seriously;

Abi I should call my tailor?”

I can’t tell you who the star of the movie is; everybody shined. Banky W should win the ‘Revelation of the Year’ Award, he plays Dozie with the skill and conviction of a one-time bad boy determined to go straight. I assume he’s had enough practice via his music videos, plus he did go to film school at some point. Ikechukwu aka E-Kills also – he kills (see what I did there?) the role of the emergency best man. I did think his reactions appeared contrived at some point – but overall, he was a master. Sola Sobowale outshines Ireti Doyle; but that’s probably because we’ve been seeing Ireti as the ice queen more and more lately, while it has been a while Sola Sobowale graced our screens (or maybe I speak for just myself). But I tell you, Sola or Toyin Tomato was born for the owambe.


She can dance – and not just that, she can play mother of the bride to perfection. You know Yoruba people can love to party; Sola’s character portrays that trait beautifully. Ali Baba is her husband, and his acting too is a pleasant surprise. You have to know RMD is still the class act he was when we all fell in love with him all those years ago. The man delivers a sterling performance; making it clear that the flop ‘The Grudge’ movie was no fault of his – or Ireti’s for that matter.

To enjoy more RMD, please see Three Wise Men.

The entire cast is amazing; they looked like they were having fun even when things were spiraling out of control. There’s a white girl who stole every scene she was in; asking for amala and gbegiri at the wedding reception, throwing it down with a dance troupe Tinuade Coker arranged for the Onwukas. As an aside, you see the classic Ireti Doyle in that scene; the dancers come in, dressed in traditional attire and colors.

Tinuade Coker: *waves at the Onwukas* “We ordered them for you.”

Obianuju Onwuka: *disdain is written or her face* “They are Efik. We are Igbo.”

Tinuade Coker: *looks at her husband* “And so?”

Bamidele Coker: *looks at his wife* “What’s the difference? Is it not both South South?”

Kemi Adetiba’s attention to detail is impressive.  Seemingly insignificant happenings come together to show a consistent thread through the movie. There’s quite a bit of color in the pomp and pageantry; people abandoning the unpronounceable meals the Onwukas provided for the local dishes Tinuade Coker and Iya Michael provided. Laugh follows laugh in this movie – and yet, the emotion and drama are well-balanced.

The Wedding Party is an enjoyable movie. Take your family, your friends – but if your relationship is a month or younger, don’t take le boo. Trust me, you either will get married or breakup; and neither should seem like an attractive option yet.

I’m just saying.