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That Gender Equality Bullshit II


That Gender Equality Bullshit II


Pick A Struggle, Biko.


Before I proceed, look at this picture:





Seen? Good.

To provide context, that is one of the promotional posters for X-Men: Apocalypse, one of the worst X Movies I have ever seen.

But that’s not the point.

The big guy is En Sabah Nur aka Apocalypse, the guy hailed as the first mutant. In his hand is Mystique, a female shape-shifting mutant. They are on opposite sides of the war, which is why he would be choking her

That poster raised the ire of some ‘feminists’ and ‘human rights groups’.

Their issue?

It promotes violence against women.

It isn’t a lie, is it? Why would anyone want to promote a movie by having a man wrap his hand around the throat of a woman? Isn’t that what they/we’re fighting for?

It is wrong, right?


But; aren’t we supposed to be fighting for gender equality? Those two up there aren’t friends; neither are they lovers. They are people on opposite sides of a war; and in war there are casualties of both sexes, aren’t there?


Someone should have told those hot-blooded feminists; context is everything.


I mean, if she was given preferential treatment because she’s female, that would be sexism, wouldn’t it? He treats her the same way he would treat her male counterparts, it’s violence against women. It’s like asking that female soldiers be shot with special bullets – just because they’re female.


You see why people like me often find feminism confusing? Pick a struggle, biko.


To read more about the X-Men Apocalypse fiasco, go here and here.


That was just the intro; I said that to say this:

A few weeks ago, it was announced that Dr. Who, that British Time Lord who has thrilled English people (and people worldwide) for decades will be portrayed in its thirteenth incarnation by a female. Of course, a number of reactions trailed the news. I wasn’t bothered however, because I know the history of the character. The Time Lord is supposed to be genderless; it was written into the show to allow for continuity in spite of time and explain the change of actors. In fact, I honestly wonder(ed) why it took so long. It’s been coming since forever.


Around the same time, gist about some ‘Women Liberation Front’ People agitating for a female James Bond surfaced. The first I heard of it, it was because Chris Hemsworth had seen Atomic Blond, that Charlize Theron movie and said she would be an amazing Bond. Honestly, I’m pretty much indifferent to the dude. He’s cute but can’t act for shit. That said, I was disappointed. I mean, I would expect him know better.


I’m sure he was trying to pay her a compliment – but he didn’t think it through. If he had, he would have realized agitating for a female Blond is not a compliment to Charlize, neither is it a fight for equality; it’s appropriating a well-known male figure and forcing him into a female mold.


Now let me ask you; why would you want to do that? Is that you don’t think female characters are strong enough – therefore only by appropriating what has been male for so long is the only way to make women relevant? Don’t you know that by doing stuff like that, you’re actually being sexist?


As an aside; I love Kemi Adetiba to death – but the title of her show/program King Women is something I frown at. I love the show, I’m a fan of several of the women who have been on it – but that title is the summation of everything wrong with that side of the ‘gender equality’ war; women can’t achieve greatness on their own pedestal (Queens Regnant; that is – ask Google), they have to come into the men’s arena (Kings).


Or maybe I don’t understand the thinking behind the title ‘King Women’. I stand corrected.


Remember Lara Croft? How about Salt? How about that great lady, Agatha Christie’s (debatably) greatest creation; Miss Marple? How about Wonder Woman? How about Major Motoko Kusanagi of Ghost in the Shell? How about Linda Ikeja? Genevieve? Sally Kenneth Dadzie? Tomi Adesina? Ogechi Nwobia? Elsie? Joy Isi Bewaji? Beyonce? Melissa Macarthy? Angelina Jolie? Scar Jo (even though I don’t think much of her acting skills)? Ellen Degeneres? Can’t you be great, successful, fucking wealthy and be utterly, undeniably female? Honestly, this kind of thinking is the bane of gender equality – because whether you know it or not, you’re saying there’s no value in being female; there’s something wrong with being female. Like; once you have a vagina, you’re doomed; and the only way out is to try to be male.


It’s the same thinking that makes people ascribe the success of Wonder Woman to ‘GIRLS ROCK!’ and not an amazing character given an amazing story, played by an amazing actress and shot by an amazing director.


No. It’s only because she’s female and we haven’t seen a female-led movie in forever. Hm.


Just yesterday I read on a friend’s Facebook post that some person said chivalry stemmed from chauvinism and therefore should be eradicated.


Bloody Hell.


SO, there’s something wrong with a man being nice to a woman.


Okay. Fair enough.


Yet, if a man behaves around a woman the same way he does around his male friends, there’s a problem. He’s barbaric; animalistic and male. You understand the confusion yet?


Pick a struggle, biko.


Let’s not go into the double-standard conversation. Let’s not go near the whole it’s-only-rape-when-its-done-by-a-man-to-a-woman gist. Let’s not talk about how it’s flirting when a woman does it, it’s sexual harassment when a man does the exact same thing. Oh, let’s leave out all of that.


Please. I’m just asking for clarity. What does gender equality mean; the equality of a species or the ‘get-out-jail-free-card for women when they are in generally inconvenient situations?


I’m just asking. And from one human to another….


Pick a fucking struggle, BIKO!






8 responses

  1. Ufuoma

    I feel you Seun. Sometimes the concept of feminism confuses me.
    That’s I don’t call myself a feminist, because I don’t agree with some of the things it advocates.
    For me, my struggle is plain old respect.
    Women have been treated like crap for way too long and are generally assumed to be incompetent, so we feel that we have to fight really hard to make a difference.
    Respect me, don’t treat me like crap and don’t define my boundaries or duties. Don’t put me in this tiny box labelled ” Wife and Mother”.
    Women can be so much more…

    July 28, 2017 at 7:49 pm

    • I feel you too.

      I just want to be clear on one thing…


      The male gender is as much a victim as any other. That’s all.

      Thank you for reading. And sharing.


      July 28, 2017 at 10:34 pm

  2. Compelling argument.
    Feminism is amorphous and means different things to different people and even different things to the same person at different times and different situations.
    Honestly, I think where the confusion comes from is a deep desire to fight all things male : centuries of male domination has created a generation of females who are touchy and ultra sensitive to males and all things ascribed to masculine.
    Primarily, gender equality means freedom of choice of both sexes, equal treatment and opportunity, equal reward commensurate with talents, skills and work put in, equal rights, freedom from oppression, removal of bars to heights of success any gender can achieve and just a fundamental right to be. Sadly, that’s not what we see playing out in today’s campaigns for gender equality

    August 2, 2017 at 12:16 pm

    • See ehn, God bless you for this. I know how many times I have told some blood-thirsty ‘feminists’ – ‘man is not the enemy’. Whether you know it or not, the same system that has placed restrictions on females have also places expectations and roles on men! We’re both victims – understand that.

      But no! NO!

      Heh. One mind at a time. Thanks bro!

      August 2, 2017 at 12:30 pm

  3. Good read. You seem really vexed. Many of those that call themselves feminists do so for convenience sake. Many just mask their misandry with it. I’ve read several times online about how some of them say cooking for one’s husband is degrading. Not that I support a woman being confined to the kitchen, but generally saying that is a whole new of stupid.
    When I saw that X-men: Apocalypse picture and the reactions it generated, I was genuinely confused. Did they expect En Sabar Nur to pamper Mystique? Like I said, many of them do it for convenience sake. They want to enjoy the benefits of patriarchal system like the man shouldering financial responsibilities while they cower under pseudo-feminism when their ‘responsibilities’ are brought up.

    Regarding the female James Bond, I see those who call for that in the same light as those who call for a black James Bond. Those are pointless agitations.

    August 5, 2017 at 5:15 am

    • Nah bro. Never vexed.

      Confused is more like it.

      Maybe they think Sabar should arrange mani-pettis for Mystique – oh shit! That’s so sexist…

      Hehehe. Thanks for visiting!

      August 5, 2017 at 5:28 am

  4. Ashama Anesh

    Oh dear! Someone is thinking. Where have you been all my life?!

    August 7, 2017 at 7:29 am

    • Hehehehehehe!

      Somewhere around.

      Thank you!

      August 7, 2017 at 8:38 am

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