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Sober Saturday: Conversations With Mama I


During one of our many conversations, my mother said, “Seun, it’s easy to keep your wife happy. Always remember two days above all – the first time you saw/met her, and the day she agreed to marry you.”


“Okay?” I said, wondering where she was headed.


“Learn to trust her. She knows more than you ever will, so be patient and understanding. Sometimes, she will act up. She is a woman. It’s allowed. Don’t let every little thing she does get to you. Love her, support her, give her everything she needs –plus more. If she asks you for one hundred naira, give her five hundred if you have it. The day she asks for one hundred and you give her fifty, she will accept it with gratitude because she knows if you have more you will give her.”


“Okay ma, but if I’m supposed to do all of this, what then is her job? What is she bringing to the table?”


She squeezed her face. “How does that concern you? Are you a woman? If you do your part, she will do hers.”


I kunkunma shut up.


Yup. That was my mother. Human version of the iceberg that sunk the Titanic.


Love you still, ma.




8 responses

  1. Bless her soul. may she continue to rest well.

    November 12, 2016 at 2:47 pm

  2. Seleipiri Akobo

    She sure did a great Job with you. She is very proud of you. May she continue to rest easy.

    November 12, 2016 at 4:00 pm

    • Amen.

      Thank you so much…thank you.

      November 12, 2016 at 4:16 pm

  3. And you kukunma shut up

    Smart move Bro. Your mum was obviously really loved by you

    November 12, 2016 at 8:38 pm

    • I only had one of her. I get choice?

      Thank you.

      November 12, 2016 at 8:47 pm

  4. Pure, undiluted wisdom…I should get a pen and write this down!
    Mama was a very wise woman….and she lives on in these memories

    November 13, 2016 at 12:02 am

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