Sober Saturday: Conversations With Mama I
During one of our many conversations, my mother said, “Seun, it’s easy to keep your wife happy. Always remember two days above all – the first time you saw/met her, and the day she agreed to marry you.”
“Okay?” I said, wondering where she was headed.
“Learn to trust her. She knows more than you ever will, so be patient and understanding. Sometimes, she will act up. She is a woman. It’s allowed. Don’t let every little thing she does get to you. Love her, support her, give her everything she needs –plus more. If she asks you for one hundred naira, give her five hundred if you have it. The day she asks for one hundred and you give her fifty, she will accept it with gratitude because she knows if you have more you will give her.”
“Okay ma, but if I’m supposed to do all of this, what then is her job? What is she bringing to the table?”
She squeezed her face. “How does that concern you? Are you a woman? If you do your part, she will do hers.”
I kunkunma shut up.
Yup. That was my mother. Human version of the iceberg that sunk the Titanic.
Love you still, ma.